Monday, March 14, 2016

Letters to Tomorrow ~ Edited Dreams

Dear Tomorrow,

There will be many times in your life when you need to make compromises. Things will not go your way. Your expectations will become too heavy for you to hold, or worse, they'll come crashing down and bring you with them. Personally, I have heard the words "balance" and "compromise" too many times as a woman to feel anything but distaste towards them. But I hope you create your own relationship with those terms. Beyond just terms, they are important concepts worth considering a relationship with. 

People change. Dan and I are very much the same people we knew when we first met 12 years ago, and in so many ways, we're different. 

So many people in our lives are different. My relationships with those who I considered constant and permanent have changed and been made temporary. Circumstances change. People fall in and out of love with each other, their passions, their hopes. 

Compromise sometimes becomes necessary to continue breathing full breaths. But it sure doesn't have to be the norm. A few years ago, I learned that it worked better for me if I renamed compromising to editing dreams. My dreams still found a way to live on, with some edits and revisions. I needed to make these so I could continue to dream, but also find a way to actualize my dream. 

There have been times when my final draft of my dream looked nothing like my rough initial notes. But that was okay too - each iterative cycle, each edit, each revision - made my dream bolder. 

I wish you nothing but bold wise dreams, and all the strength and frivolity to live them out: edited, uncensored, or anything on the way.



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